Who among us doesn’t want to be liked, to live conflict free, to please those around us? Problem is, as Lincoln said, “You can never please all of the people all of the time.”
Dr. Susan Biali in How to Stop People-Pleasing says most people-pleasers are women who attract mean, controlling bullies. People-pleasing is draining and futile as an attempt to getting your needs met.
An eggshell walker myself, my life improved drastically when I pulled the plug on people-pleasing. When I feel the need to please creeping back up, I sing Follow Your Arrow with Kacey Musgraves to remind myself people-pleasing isn’t profitable.
Is there someone to whom you should say “no” today?