What does the wolf say?

Saturday before the Oscars I picked up my 90-year old mother for a “2014 Oscar nominated film” marathon. We saw Philomena which she adored, Nebraska which she loved but less, and The Wolf of Wall Street which she hated.

Silhouette of howling wolf against forest skyline and full moon. ©iStockphoto/tntemerson

Silhouette of howling wolf against forest skyline and full moon. ©iStockphoto/tntemerson

I take the blame for that. I didn’t know Scorcese’s film was such a graphic display of sex, drugs, and greed. On a positive note, the abundant stripping of clothes in Jordon Belfort’s life in the hands of director Martin Scorcese models the stripping of masks on those who want to tell their “no-holds-barred” life story.

Want to try your hand at revealing shocking truths from your fallen nature in naked reality? Watch The Wolf of Wall Street and be thankful you can. We wouldn’t have that opportunity if Jordon Belfort hadn’t written so honestly about his life experience. I doubt he would have written his story had he not been arrested, convicted, and sentenced to prison. It still might not exist had it not been for the fact that Belfort was encouraged to write his story by his prison bunkmate who according to Aly Weisman was Tommy Chong who along with his partner Cheech and George Carlin so humorously captured life in the 1970s.

If you are considering shining a harsh light on your life of excess, be aware of the complications. Belfort avoids the fatal flaw of exposing others while protecting self by making no attempt at trying to stick even a tarnished, warped halo on himself.

Our tendency to “fix facts” in our minds is superbly illustrated in a scene in Wolf. Belfort gets a call from his attorney telling him to go to a pay phone. High on expired Quaaludes, Belfort drives his vehicle (a Lamborghini in the film, a Mercedes in real life according to The Daily Beast) to a pay phone where he learns his friend has been arrested and his phones have been bugged by the FBI. Collapsed when the expired drugs finally kick in, Belfort crawls to his car and drives, slowly and carefully he thinks, back home. Belfort doesn’t realize the extent of his drug-enhanced delusion until officers arrive and ask if he had been driving the vehicle. When Belfort takes another look at the car, it is heavily damaged.

Belfort seemingly holds nothing back in telling his story. While he doesn’t want to rat on his associates and even warns his partner Danny that he’s wearing a wiretap and not to incriminate himself, I don’t get a sense from the film that Belfort is repentant or remorseful. Belfort seems part of the “too cool for school” crowd. Belfort is too cool when he flies his helicopter stoned and crashes, too cool when he invites FBI agents aboard his yacht, too cool when he refuses to take a securities deal and step down. James S. Murphy in Vanity Fair thinks DiCaprio’s cool factor which elicits admiration, envy, and desire instead of understanding and empathy might have cost him the Oscar.

Another problematic issue with the tell-all that exposes yourself is the potential lawsuit. According to CNN, attorney Alan Greene has filed a lawsuit claiming he was defamed by his portrayal. Telling Tales has some good questions you should ask your lawyer before pursuing your revealing story.

If I’m missing Super Bowl Sunday, look here!

I’m not wild about football. There I said it. It’s out for everyone to see.

If I'm missing Super Bowl Sunday, look here! ©D.L. Ewbank

If I’m missing Super Bowl Sunday, look here! ©D.L. Ewbank

My Mom reminded me of this yesterday when she asked if I were going to see a movie next Sunday night. For those of you reading from foreign lands, Sunday night is the Super Bowl XLVIII, the National Football League’s annual championship. The Super Bowl is as high as you can go in American football. On Super Bowl Sunday, Americans gather around televisions to consume vast amounts of food only rivaled by Thanksgiving as they watch to see which brand has the best commercial, which star avoids ruining their career while performing during half-time, and which team of players will walk with coveted Super Bowl rings. Even though I have dear friends who are avid Broncos fans, aside from the rings which I doubt I’ll ever lay hands on, there isn’t much in this Sunday’s sports spectacle where Denver Broncos meet Seattle Seahawks that interests me.

Back in 2003, I went to a movie on Super Bowl Sunday. Really, I did. I joined a theater full of football widows to watch The Hours. Based on the (1999 Pulitzer Prize for Fiction and the PEN/Faulkner Award for Fiction) novel of the same name by Michael Cunningham, the film starred Meryl Streep, Julianne Moore, and Nicole Kidman. If film had a Super Bowl (and yes it does; it’s called the Oscars and The Hours garnered nine nominations with Nicole Kidman’s receiving the Oscar for Best Actress for her role) these women would be among the players. I was brought back to the effortless acting abilities of these women from Streep’s recent visit to Ellen. As Ellen provided dull copy like traffic directions on cards and a character prompt like “sexy” or “bored teenager,” Meryl read them so in character I was sure she was each including a teenage boy! Now there is a sport with which I can identify.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t hate sports. I like to watch tennis, soccer and basketball. And you’d have a hard time dragging me away from Olympic beach volleyball played by Misty May-Treanor and Kerri Walsh. I’ve played these sports and I understand them. But I never understood football. I would go to Arkansas games and “Woo Pig Sooie!” along with the best of them though I didn’t have a clue what was happening on the field. Even when I was among the golden girls invited to the 1970 Razorback Christmas party where my date proudly introduced me to many of the top players, the only person I knew by sight was Coach Frank Broyles!

Movies? That’s an entirely different matter. Movies are stories based on life. They transport me to new places, new experiences, different times. They evoke emotions lurking within me, those I know I have, some I never realized. And that’s why as I was slowly dragging my drama weary body, one amidst the throng of almost worshipful women, from the movie theater I was emotionally open to suggestion.

“Chicago,” one woman said. She was speaking of Ron Marshall’s film that would, in weeks, walk away with six Oscars.

“Starts in just minutes,” her friend echoed. This was only half-time, I suddenly realized. Nimbly as a quarterback, I darted through the blockers to the ticket office. Would there be seats available? Touchdown! I headed to the screen with popcorn and a beverage where I was entertained again by an entirely different genre.

Unfortunately, only one team can win Sunday night. For the Super Bowl losers (as well as those whose work will fail to bring them an Oscar this season) I share one tagline from The Hours listed at the IMDB.com, “The time to hide is over. The time to regret is gone. The time to live is now.”