Follow Your Arrow

Who among us doesn’t want to be liked, to live conflict free, to please those around us? Problem is, as Lincoln said, “You can never please all of the people all of the time.”

FDr. Susan Biali in How to Stop People-Pleasing says most people-pleasers are women who attract mean, controlling bullies. People-pleasing is draining and futile as an attempt to getting your needs met.

An eggshell walker myself, my life improved drastically when I pulled the plug on people-pleasing. When I feel the need to please creeping back up, I sing Follow Your Arrow with Kacey Musgraves to remind myself people-pleasing isn’t profitable.

Is there someone to whom you should say “no” today?

A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future (Riverhead, 2006)

If you’re a right-brain creative who feels “pooh-poohed” by family and friends alike who say you should abandon your craft in order to embrace left-brain financial practicality, then introduce them to Daniel H. Pink. Pink, who has been praised by Tom Peters and Seth Godin, says six senses will rule the future or Conceptual Age: design, story, symphony, empathy, play and meaning.

“Stories,” Pink says, “are easier to remember-because in many ways, stories are how we remember.” Pink begins with myth ala Joseph Campbell, then shows how story is being taught as well as used by business and in medicine. Pink includes exercises to set the beginner on the story trail.

While Pink’s thought on story is brief and basic for the practicing storyteller, importance and freshness come via its inclusion with five other senses. The savvy life narrator will recognize that design, symphony, empathy, play and meaning, when incorporated in story as well as the story life, unite with the life story to make it phenomenally stronger.