Telling the disaster story

Spring in Arkansas brings new leaves on trees, fresh colorful blooms, and potentially nightmarish weather. April 13, I watched as heavy rains caused flooding in Little Rock near my home.

A catastrophic damage causing F3 tornado on April 2nd, 2006 near Wynne, Arkansas. ©  iStockphoto/clintspencer

A catastrophic damage causing F3 tornado on April 2nd, 2006 near Wynne, Arkansas. © iStockphoto/clintspencer

Pictures posted on Facebook included a car in water almost over the top of its hood and a collapsed retaining wall on Kavanaugh, a winding through street. Bad weather struck central Arkansas again Sunday, April 30, 2014, when an EF4 tornado swept across several counties. Homes and businesses were damaged or completely blown away to the foundation. The new $13 million Vilonia Intermediate School was totally destroyed. But the most heart-rending loss was the fifteen lives taken by the tornado.

How does one go on after family members, homes, and businesses are wiped out unexpectedly in a moment? Certainly the disaster workers, friends, and families as well as many other countless hearts that give of their resources to assist are a help. It might also help to tell your storm related story. The Hodgepodge Darling, a blogger named Jessica Sowards who identifies her blog as “one crunchy, Christian girl’s musings on homemade life, motherhood and the daily attempt to walk humbly with her God,” did just that on April 30, 2014. The post goes on to share her friend April’s faith amidst the grief of loss and her own personal physical injuries.

Though the weather predictions were bad, Sowards and her family moved to their new home with its concrete basement in Vilonia the day of the storm. “We’ll be safe, we thought. We were.” Sowards tells of watching the tornado as it moved over the area where her friend April Smith lives. Sowards’ husband went to check on the Smith family, then relayed the horrifying news of the death of the family’s two sons.

As a blogger, you never know when something will ring a bell with the masses and be shared across the blogosphere get picked up or even become viral. The post by The Hodgepodge Darling was published by Faith-it.com, local news stations, and even the Deseret News. As it came to me I was struck by the faith of April Smith, injured in a hospital bed, grieving the loss of her two sons and the family home. I was struck by the love of a friend who was at her side immediately after the tornado hit. I was struck that Soward was so trusted by her friend that Smith told her to publish her hospital bed picture and tell her story letting the whole world glimpse her at her lowest point.

Many of us enjoy folks coming alongside to celebrate our successes, milestones, good times. It takes real transparency to allow others in when we are battered, broken, bruised. The openness to share our deepest depths can be opportunity to show that life isn’t always a walk on the sunny side. Sometimes life’s path is trough dark times we could never imagine or foresee. The courage to tell of those difficult days can encourage others to face their own as well as come alongside. And for those lucky enough to have a friend like Jessica Soward to help you tell your story when you are unable to yourself I say, “Honey, you’ve hit gold.”

 

The eyes have it

I’m trying to incorporate eye makeup again after all these years. By all these years, I mean since around the late 70s when I heard mascara was made of bat guano. Turns out bat guano mascara is an urban legend, maybe the first that impacted my life.

Eye shadow

Eye shadow

Even though I knew it was not true that the ingredients in my mascara included bat excrement, the thought alone was disgusting. Over time I began to use eye makeup less and less, then only on special occasions. Like they say use it or loose it. Eventually, I lost the mastery.

Maybe that’s a good thing. My signature baboon butt blue eye shadow with thin black liner and black mascara is no longer the height of fashion in the new millennium. Definately not for my age group. For over 60s apparently the fashion is matte neutrals. But what do they know… A little shine never hurt anyone.

Even though smoky eyes may be a risk for over the 60 plus woman, when I receive an email touting the new Bobbie Brown smudge-able eyeliner I can’t resist. I rush to the mall where I purchase dark brown instead of the black of my youth because someone online says black on women over 60 is too harsh. The sales clerk demonstrates that it smudges, sets, then can’t be rubbed off. I am envious as I watch her smear the liner on her hand, so smooth and not the least bit crepey. “Lotion” I note mentally.

Non-smudging necessitates eye makeup remover. I go to another counter where I say, “I’m out.” I don’t mention I’ve been out since the 90s to the young, probably twenties young sales clerk assisting me.

I make my decision between three products she describes, then I come around a counter to pay for my purchase. As I’m digging in my purse I hear her say something like, “Look at you! Don’t you look adorable! So cozy!” I’m thrown together in a simple black dress and black sandals with my hair clipped up in a black barrette. She can’t be talking to me. I turn around to see who the adorable woman is and no one is there. She says, “I’m talking to you!”

I’m so stunned I can’t respond.

I love to shop!

Margot Leitman

I’m inspired by Margot Leitman.

I was immersed in intensive improv classes at the Upright Citizens Brigade, yet secretly hoping for a storytelling class, when I spotted Storytelling and Solo Work 101 in spring 2011. The class was taught by comedian Margot Leitman whose credits include Moth Grandslam Champion, regular appearances on “Late Night With Conan O’Brien,” and at the UCB a long running solo show and two storytelling shows. I enrolled immediately.

Margot Leitman by Anya Garrett

Margot Leitman by Anya Garrett